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There is little more scary than the idea of unconditional love. The very
idea that love is tied to neither conduct nor outcome, stands against all the
safety and dogma we feed into what love should be, to us. It is not that we
want a standard conduct on which love is based. We have that already. It is not
that we want it to be balanced. We say we do but we really do not. What scares
us the most is the high gate we too must face if love must be who we are. We are
afraid that we will get unconditional love and then, we will have to give it
too.
That is the other part of understanding God’s whole point about love. We
are not just receivers of this great concepts of love and grace and hope and
faith. We are being made into givers of that same light.
And there is the divine puzzle: this will not happen overnight. You will
not be cured of your self at once but over a lifetime. Love starts in realizing
that you are loved without condition. It tells you that this is your inherent
value. You are worthy of love. It teaches you that your sentient life has value
and you do not have to believe the worse versions of yourself as destiny. There
is much more to come. Then it tells you, mistake after mistake, that you will
be fine. That you can stand up. You will not be cured in moments but over your
whole life. Then it whispers to you, as you rather like this lifelong
trajectory of a love you cannot break, to apply this same idea to everyone else
you meet. That too, will take a lifetime. But, dear daughter, you can start
today.