H,
You know this thing about my temper. 
I am always pressing away from it. I have a series of easy build ups and
then there is the volcano, up and about and curbing my soul into tiny eruptions
that have no grace in them. I have to learn kindness over blind rage.
There is nothing wrong with being upset or angry. There are things to be
angry and upset about. The reaction is the thing. The expression of it in violent
words or actions is the bane of it. We should never be hurtful, even though we
frequently are. We should never be unkind, even though we frequently are. This is
not coda for how we will behave. It is part of the map of how we should behave.
Dwelling in the light means you will have more questions about your own
behaviour. If this does not happen, you may be slipping into the dark spot of
yourself.  If it is all that happens then
you have become the point of reference for yourself, your flaws have become
things you can handle, and you have decided to fix yourself. Both positions are
untenable. We are to dwell in the light and not fix ourselves in the light. The
same kindness above blind rage we are to give to others we must also give to ourselves.