Of what benefit is your anger? It hurts you inside, and when expressed it hurts those around you too.
No we mustn’t confuse having control of our emotions with having no emotions at all. No one is asking us to become robots. There are even times when anger can become a useful tool of expressing dissatisfaction. But like many other things when applied in excess, it can be very destructive.
Understand that while every emotion you feel is a true reaction to present circumstances with it’s own validity, it should not be made god over everything in your life. Your anger should not so overshadow and surpass all else that you abandon reason and instead allow your vengeance to rage. It may very well be cathartic in the moment, but what then? You are left feeling hollow and ashamed, having solved nothing, having done more harm than good.
It simply isn’t enough to bury the anger inside ourselves where it can fester, and rot, and turn malicious. The poison must be completely expelled from our hearts so we may once again see the light, so we do not revisit the issue with unexpected vitriol down the road.
Know that the response to feeling wronged by others cannot be do to do them harm. And as difficult and as frustrating as the process can be, forgiveness is the path we must take. It is by no means easy. But it must be a forgiveness so thorough that you are overjoyed to see the person again, harbouring no hatred or ill-will.
Impossible, right? Then give it to God. We do not forgive by our own might. Whether you are crying out to Him for justice or mercy, leave it in His hands completely, and trust that He will bring the matter to the rightful close, both in your heart and between you and the person or people who have so hurt you.
Know that the people who hurt you are human like you, falling short daily just like you. Where you must differ is how you react when faced with the choice of giving in to every wrong impulse and emotion or pushing past it.