Release yourself from the heavy burdens you carry. Surrender yourself to the Lord. No relief can come from becoming attached to your pain and suffering. The thing to do is to always let go. Always.
You might question the decisiveness and finality of always, but what pain is worth holding on to? What internal turmoil requires our undivided attention? What good comes from not healing? For that is the purpose of surrender. To release what is eating away at you and make space for the light to come in.
Allow the space in your life to embrace joy, love, happiness by letting go of pain and fear. Swap darkness for light. Give it all up to the one who is more able. Give it all to God.